The Follow Up

Last night was my date with Adam. We went to Hams for dinner and ended up sticking around talking for about two hours. He's definitely a cutie. The age factor was a little tough to get past at first, but now that it's out of the way, I don't think it'll be a big deal.

Not used to the Southern gentlemen personality- might be a nice change. We will see if he remains interested. Lord knows, my two date history might rear it's ugly head.

The Set Up

For as many blind dates as I have been on, tomorrow will be the first set up from a friend. Sabrina and her boyfriend (<-- you like that, Sabs? :) ) decided that I should meet his best friend, Adam. So, through a little scheming from the two of them, he found me on facebook.

Adam is 22.. which is way younger than most of the guys i've been going out with recently. He lives in Charlotte, and we all know how I feel about long distance relationships. He likes to fish and go to races. I hate seafood and could care less about Nascar. But the funny thing is? I'm more excited about this date than I have been about any of the past dates. He is super sweet. He calls and asks how my day has been and I've yet to hear him say a negative comment.

Results to follow.. wish me luck!

To date just to date?

Okay. Here's the dilemma. Date number two with John/Josh was last night. We watched a movie- he held my hand, kissed me goodnight. The problem? A serious lack of chemistry. You know that feeling when the guy you like accidentally brushes your arm and you get butterflies? Yeah, there was all but none of that going on. Could he be in the friend zone? We shall see. Which brings me to my next point. To date just to date.. even when you know that you aren't really interested romantically? I get it, I get it. You're thinking.. well you're single. and he's single. So why not? Well, here's my take:

Single doesn't mean desperate. Single also doesn't mean that you have to like anyone who likes you. This is a common mistake which only results in settling. Why yes, I would like to have a boyfriend. However, that doesn't mean I'll take just any old boyfriend. I want there to be sparks.. and chemistry, and common interests. No, he doesn't have to be my prince charming. I'm a realist, people. But there has to be something there.

Often, I mistake the jerk guys for the right guys, and the nice guys as clingy. I know this about myself. In this case though, I'm thinking that chemistry outweighs a few free dinners. I could eat my words on this later.. but for now? No thanks.

The akward side hug

Can I just say how much I hate a side hug? I mean.. it can be all kinds of awkward. Face to the armpit? Which way to look to avoid an accidental kiss? And the worst of them all, is the car side hug... you know the one I'm talking about. Over the middle console, hands getting caught in seatbelts.

If I could avoid the side hug altogether, I would.

back on track

Yikes, this blog has been horribly neglected. So much has happened since D-bag Corey. Who, by the way, I did end up going out with- and he was just as much a deusch as I suspected.

Then there was Mr. Vogel. He was a high school football coach (naturally) and we went out twice. He was a previous Match guy who turned facebook friend for ohhhh probably a good 8 months before he ever got the balls to ask me out. We went out for drinks the first night, and watched a movie at his house the next. Turns out Mr. Vogel was a sexter. That's right. I said SEXTER. Okay, nothing wrong with a little scandalous fun- however, when you never call again for no reason (and by no reason, i mean literally no reason) it makes me wonder what you were really after. On to the next..

On to Ben. Ben was 32 and from Martinsville. 45 minutes seemed a bit far, but what the hey? We met for dinner one fine Sunday night. Ben said on his profile that he was 5'8". He was definitely 5'5"- which is fine.. just own it. I wore heels.. and would have passed on them had I known what I was in for.

Then there was Drew. Drew was fresh off the plane from PA and we hit it off right away. Met for drinks. Noticing a theme? Yeah- I take all my online boys to the same bar. I bet the bartenders are starting to notice. "That girl gets around." Yeah. around to a lot of FIRST dates. Anyways, back to Drew. Great first meeting- received a text about how much fun he had and asked if we could do it again the following week? "Of course!", I replied. That was two weeks ago and I still haven't heard from Drew. Another one bites the dust...

Moving on to Keller. Keller is new to W-S from Spartanburg and works in Nascar. (Yeah, we all know how much I lurrrrve Nascar.) We exchanged a number of emails and then he asked if he could find me on facebook. Sure! Oh, Keller.. IF you're going to try and date on the side, you might want to make private the fact that you're in a relationship on the good ole' FB. When questioned about his status, his response was that he "hadn't changed it from years ago." I smell a rat.

Then there was John... I mean Josh, I mean John. We went out for drinks last night. John is 26 and works in aviation with a side hustle in photography. Perfect! We went out for a drink (of course) and when we walked in, I ran into an old guy friend from college. Before things got weird after a big hug from Kyle, I decided I should intro him to my date. "Kyle, this is Josh.. wait, this is John, SORRY!" Eek. First rule of dating? Know your dates name. We had lots to talk about and it honestly felt like we had known eachother for a long time. He asked me to hang out again tonight. To be continued....

ugh.

update: Corey is a deusch. A Deusch who STOOD ME UP. Screw dating. This blows.

I'm back.

Guess whoooos backkk!? Yep. After a convincing "give it another go" speech.. I bit the bullet and signed up for another month. I mean.. it is the Holidays after all. And no one likes to be lonely at Christmas.

Meet Corey. He's the Athletic Director of Elon University. Masters from ECU and seems rather promising. He lives in Burlington, which is kind of a far ( not really THAT bad) trek.. but it's not the end of the world. We have been texting/emailing back and forth for about 4 days and if there is any actual chemistry in person- this could be a good one.

Drinks tonight at 7- wish me luck :) :)